One sentence stuck out to me in your description: "but I won at the end".
I'm curious as to what this means. Did you push him and "master him" until he gave in that day?
A very wise man once said to me that you want to keep everything at the level of a discussion between you and your horse. A discussion that you can walk away from on any given day agreeing to disagree. During the cooling off period the horse can mull things over and usually decides that he might want t
more...One sentence stuck out to me in your description: "but I won at the end".
I'm curious as to what this means. Did you push him and "master him" until he gave in that day?
A very wise man once said to me that you want to keep everything at the level of a discussion between you and your horse. A discussion that you can walk away from on any given day agreeing to disagree. During the cooling off period the horse can mull things over and usually decides that he might want to try things your way. BUT if you let things escalate to an "arguement", then you'd better win. If you don't you've got some real problems ahead.
However, in my experience you usually don't win - they're bigger than me - and if I do "win" I may have won the battle that day but lost the war in the end. I lost the connection with the horse due to my ego. I'm wondering if this is the case with your relationship with this horse?
Folks have seen me write about "going slow" so many times in these blogs, and this is why I'm so adament about it. I'm trying to keep things at the discussion level, and usually the slower I go and the softer the more rapidly the horse responds. But I do have my arsenal of tools to win that battle if things have gone too far.
You might think about this....?
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