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What is it that woman really want in a man
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MedicineWoman
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Posted on 14-JUN-07
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intimacy!
What does that really mean?
Have we really experience this from our peers?
What does this word mean to you? Sex, or connection with being open to really knowing that person's heart and soul.
Are you able to speak you're truth to the person that you want to be in a relationship for many, many years or a life time?
I am with you all about being respectful with each other, but I see that it can even go deeper than that as far as this act of kindness between two people.
Can you grow more...intimacy!
What does that really mean?
Have we really experience this from our peers?
What does this word mean to you? Sex, or connection with being open to really knowing that person's heart and soul.
Are you able to speak you're truth to the person that you want to be in a relationship for many, many years or a life time?
I am with you all about being respectful with each other, but I see that it can even go deeper than that as far as this act of kindness between two people.
Can you grow with this man as you and he go through life's changes, on whatever that may be; Step children, ex-wife's, ex-girl friends or just friends with no other attachments.
So, back to that question What is it that woman really want in a man?
I think you have to ask yourself, what is it as a woman that I can have with a real man and me as a real woman. I think this is the key to really finding the best love you can have in life, yourself and someone to share themselves with you too!
From my experience of being in a spiritual relationship on finding you're truth on what is really happening with you and him. it is not easy, but a awakening on breaking patterns that no longer serve you and him.
it is so well worth it to live with truth then ignorance.
Medicine Woman less...
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MedicineWoman
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Commented on 19-JAN-08
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HI lile09,
I don't know if I had answer your reply.
I think if the guy is really interested in improving what you both can have, would be a good insight.
Also if you have a foundation of trust or if you want to build that trust and safety with him, you can discuss the possibility to work with someone on the issue causing you frustration.
Thanks for the compliment.
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western_type
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Commented on 02-OCT-07
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I?m not a stand up philosopher but we can glean some knowledge from nature. Who tells the spider to spin the web and the beaver to build a dam? The answer is nature. Men and women are born needing each other mentally, physically and spiritually and women want it all and some men will take less.
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gonridnu
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Commented on 24-SEP-07
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I believe that many people, both men and women, over analyze the desire for partnership to the point of confusion.
Why do domesticated horses still have a flight instinct when they have no natural predators and are strong powerful animals in their own right?
The answer is INSTINCT, which by definition "is a pattern of behavior which is characteristic of a particular species" and "a powerful motivation or impulse".
We, as humans, are subject to all the same forces of more...I believe that many people, both men and women, over analyze the desire for partnership to the point of confusion.
Why do domesticated horses still have a flight instinct when they have no natural predators and are strong powerful animals in their own right?
The answer is INSTINCT, which by definition "is a pattern of behavior which is characteristic of a particular species" and "a powerful motivation or impulse".
We, as humans, are subject to all the same forces of nature as the rest of the animal kingdom. We are communal and for the most part desire interaction with those of our own species (why else would we be blogging:) Like the other animals in the kingdom we have a deep seated drive to procreate and are sexual by nature.
Why do people in the city love gardening when there is no real purpose to it? Why do so many of us here on this site have a love of animal husbandry? The reason is simple, we are hunter-gatherers and for many many thousands of years our ancestors raised and cared for animals and labored in the fields.
I believe that inner turmoil is the result of denial of our true being. Living outside of our nature (the good part of it at least) requires a huge effort and is frought with obstacles at every turn.
Men perceive their desires as being more physical in nature while women feel them at a more emotional level, so really "intimacy" is in the eyes of the beholder. But in time it these two paths can cross and become one.
We create a myriad of reasons why we aren't who we truly are meant to be...sometimes from bad past experiences/relationships, some from poor or no teaching on our elders behalf, and others from expectation or entitlement issues on our part. These are what inhibit intimacy not the differences between us.
The fact remains that until you are who you are meant to be then you will not be comfortable either with yourself or others, and no partner can possibly fill the void yo... less...
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thirstygirl
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Commented on 21-SEP-07
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I think women need men because they don't really know what they want, and men will continually surprise and amaze them in their differences. women do NOT want to be bored, but they also need to feel like they know a man on many levels. Sounds contradictory? Certainly! Thats the point---we often want things that contradict themselves!
We want closeness, someone to be there for us. yet freedom and independence!
We want physical satisfaction WHEN we want it, but not always when the other perso more...I think women need men because they don't really know what they want, and men will continually surprise and amaze them in their differences. women do NOT want to be bored, but they also need to feel like they know a man on many levels. Sounds contradictory? Certainly! Thats the point---we often want things that contradict themselves!
We want closeness, someone to be there for us. yet freedom and independence!
We want physical satisfaction WHEN we want it, but not always when the other person wants it,
We want someone to inspire us with ideas, sharing the great things in life (chocolate, galloping horses, a pinot noir, pizza with garlic)
Experiencing new things together, exploring new places. Someone to care when we're sick.
Someone to occasionnally challenge us. Someone who doesn't overstay their welcome.
Someone who can cook, even if its just toast, bacon or pancakes!
anyway, that's about it for ideas I had. less...
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gonridnu
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Commented on 20-SEP-07
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OOOOh...OOOOh....I know the answer to this one. My lovely wife sent it to me not too long ago. She said, and I quote.
"I don't ask for much in a man. He only has to be tall, rich, funny, sexy, strong, good looking, smart, romantic, charming, warm, sweet,sensitive, clever, kind, athletic, generous, punctual and of course he has to be willing to feed me ice cream in bed every night for the rest of his life!"
What did i win?
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Commented on 11-SEP-07
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I'm not even going to pretend I know what women want. Heck, I'm still trying to figure out what it is that I'm looking for in a man. I know that dating online is a challenge for me due to the fact that most of the interest I receive is from the older set. Is there really not a man out there my own age? I want to be with a man that when I'm in his presence no words need to be said. I know that sounds hoaky and unattainable, but that's what I want. I want my best friend; the guy I will spend more...I'm not even going to pretend I know what women want. Heck, I'm still trying to figure out what it is that I'm looking for in a man. I know that dating online is a challenge for me due to the fact that most of the interest I receive is from the older set. Is there really not a man out there my own age? I want to be with a man that when I'm in his presence no words need to be said. I know that sounds hoaky and unattainable, but that's what I want. I want my best friend; the guy I will spend the rest of my life falling in love with. Like I said, I'm still trying to figure it all out! less...
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Isabel39208
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Commented on 19-AUG-07
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Men are looney toons. They have their own way of doing things and opening up to women in their own time and in their own choosing. Men do not proceed about opening up - intimacy as women do. Please if there is any woman out there with a clue on how men really think - think? maybe an overstretch here - please comment. I've thrown my towel in LOL
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MedicineWoman
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Commented on 22-JUN-07
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Hi lile09,
I just wrote a long reply and I erased the entire thing. I am new to this type of site.
What I wrote in a summary was that I think if a man feels safe or wants to feel safe with you, that he would be open to recognize what he may be doing or not doing that is pushing his buttons or yours.
But the bottom line is, it really comes down to your stuff and if you choose to blame the other person, then you are not looking at what is yours.
I think that you are more mature for your age t more...Hi lile09,
I just wrote a long reply and I erased the entire thing. I am new to this type of site.
What I wrote in a summary was that I think if a man feels safe or wants to feel safe with you, that he would be open to recognize what he may be doing or not doing that is pushing his buttons or yours.
But the bottom line is, it really comes down to your stuff and if you choose to blame the other person, then you are not looking at what is yours.
I think that you are more mature for your age than guys you own age. But I found even older guys may still be immature, especially if they don't want to look at themselves. They may not even know how they are feeling, heck it takes practice to really get truthful with ourselves.
I think to answer your question, each person needs to really keep their hearts open to understanding how to resolve the women/man differences on how we are so different. And accept what is important to you and him. I think when we sacrifice our truth or what we think is our truth, then we limit what we can have in a loving relationship.
I admit it was not easy to stick with learning what my beliefs were really not about. But repeating the same patterns over and over in other relationships, this gets really old and frankly you realize that it is not about him and it always comes back to yourself.
Is it interesting that being single can be so much fun, cause you don't have to be accountable for someone elses stuff but yourself. So why do we blame someone else for our stuff?
I have found different types of therapy for myself that I just continue to learn more and more on how to peel distortions or patterns that just don't work anymore in my life. So look at it this way, you can start early or anytime that you are ready. At that is in the present moment of everyday or become aware of how you are feeling in your body when issues or anger, sorrow, grief it is all the same.
How do you shift that?
You be with what is there, the sensation. There are several things that can be done.
Simple as putting your hand over your heart and thinking of something wonderful (flower) sing a beautiful song. By recognizing that you are not hurting yourself with closing down your spirit. This keeps you open to the divine and only love can be there.
I hope I answered your question. less...
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